Things Narcissists Do on Social Media

Do you have PTSD or maybe some other form of mental disability? Life is hard enough without adding troublemaking psychos to the mix when you are simply reaching out to others for support. If you are considering going public with your story or even engaging publicly for said cause, please educate yourself about the Things Narcissists Do. They are everywhere on social media & will do everything in their power to make sure you do not steal the spotlight from them.

Learn how to spot them and how to deal with the behavior to protect yourself. They run in packs and will say things like, if you are friends with so and so, then we cannot be friends. Or they will send out reckless messages to their ‘friends’ telling you to ‘unfriend’ or ‘unfollow’ said person on social media. Look at their behavior compared to that of the person they are targeting. Who is causing the trouble? Maybe they both are. It’s pretty easy to determine as long as you pay attention to the behavior not their words. They accuse their target of their very same behavior.

This behavior is especially damaging if it goes unchecked on platforms like social media. The offenders feel they are not accountable to anyone. In the circumstances I witnessed, the group preyed on people who were sick with PTSD and had been rejected in one way or another. Unfortunately, some of the offenders are in public forums that give attention to them and their cause.  Because the people who reach out to them are already hurt, the behavior of the narcissists makes them more suspicious and distrustful causing further isolation and dependence on the group.  Ask yourself why would a grown man or woman be saying things like this. Why would they be referring to others who have been victimized in these ways YET completely overlook the horrible behavior of their specific group of friends?

I took the power back almost a year ago and have been happier for it ever since. I started with getting rid of my public personal Facebook page. Then I locked down my private personal Facebook page. As time went on, I had to let go of those who were still caught up in the lies and drama caused by only a few bad apples in the bunch. Like the article “Things Narcissists Do” will clearly explain, the confusion these people cause will keep your mind spinning wondering what is truth and what is not. Remember, actions speak louder then words. Only you can control what you allow in your life and head.

I couldn’t believe the lengths that these people would go to in order to discredit me on social media. It was uncanny. First they found a incident from my past and posted it to social media in an attempt to discredit me. Then they decided that a fake cease and desist order would help do the trick. Then they started contacting people that I worked with and convinced them that I was this or that. Oh and then the Facebook campaign asking people to unfriend and unlike me because I was unsafe. The funniest thing of all is that everything they accused me of was exactly what they were doing to me and had been doing to others all along. This is a classic case of projection and clearly listed as one of the traits of someone with narcissism.

If you reach out to people who are sick and make them distrustful of good people who may be the ones to help them, then you are the guilty one. If you are so sick that you actually believe these people, and then act on it, despite the way they have clearly acted in the past and present, then you are just as guilty. I feel for the people with PTSD who reach out to these people only to be inundated with craziness and drama. It takes a toll on those already suffering with PTSD. Unfortunately you take the risk of rejection and harassment whether you choose to overlook what they do to others or you call them out. You could be the next victim regardless simply because you are associated.

I have always stood alone ever since I was in high school.  I have always come from a good place of doing what is right by our fellow man. It is very unfortunate that if you do the right thing and exercise your right to freedom of expression in today’s society, you become bullied and targeted by strangers who engage in social media campaigns to take you out. Some day these same people will push someone to the point of suicide and the day that they do, I will be the first to call them out. I don’t need your approval to exercise my right to freedom of speech.

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Local Marine to speak against sexual abuse at Geneva Convention

Originally posted on myfox8.com:

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DAVIDSON COUNTY, N.C. — Davidson County native Stephanie Schroeder is an advocate for victims of sexual abuse following the nightmare she suffered after reporting a sexual assault while serving in the military.

On Thursday, Schroeder stopped by FOX8 Thursday to talk about her experience and how she is turning her personal tragedy into a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to help others.

Schroeder has been invited to travel to Switzerland in November to speak before the United Nations at the Geneva Convention during the Elimination of Violence Against Women session.

At age 21, Schroeder joined the U.S. Marine Corps not long after 9/11.

A year and a half later, after reporting a sexual assault, the Marines diagnosed her with a personality disorder and deemed her psychologically unfit for the Corps.

Schroeder told CNN that the nightmare began when a fellow Marine followed her to the bathroom in April 2002.

She says he then punched her…

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The Stop Act versus MJIA

Amy Schumer, a comedian, has depicted the unexpected turn your career takes when you become the victim of sexual assault in the military. We are not only harmed by the perpetrator but we are again harmed by the system. And currently we have two proposals in Congress that begin to address the issue. One is the Stop Act sponsored by Representative Jackie Speier. The other is the Military Justice Improvement Act sponsored by Senator Kirsten Gillibrand. Please watch the Amy Schumer video first before reading further: http://jezebel.com/amy-schumer-realizes-military-games-are-not-fun-for-fem-1562240250/all

If you keep up with Congressional efforts to address sexual assault in the military, you will find that the media discusses Senator Gillibrand’s Military Justice Improvement Act the most. But what most people do not know is that the MJIA was a compromise to our original efforts. I supported any efforts made by the Senate at the time considering we did not get the support we needed for the Stop Act from either the House of Representatives or military and women organizations. At the time, it was better then nothing and at least Senator Gillibrand addressed an option for our military members who do not report due to fear of retaliation from their Chain of Command. But it is only one element of the big picture.

The Stop Act was introduced by Representative Speier as early as 2010. When Congress learned that victim’s had to remain on station with their alleged perpetrators because there was nothing in place to address this, they proposed the Defense STRONG Act. The STRONG Act also came out about the time the Invisible War movie (www.invisiblewarmovie.com) began screening in theaters across the country. The STRONG Act’s most valuable piece of legislation was the expedited transfer, which gave Commanders an avenue to address transferring members who had been sexually assaulted or harmed by someone in their Chain of Command or local area. The Defense STRONG Act trumped the Stop Act in the media but it too only dealt with an element of the problem.

The Stop Act was introduced initially by Speier as a way that we could tackle the problem on a whole. It was obvious that Representative Speier had put some thought into this piece of legislation. It dealt with removing Commanders from the investigation and prosecution of sexual assault because either members did not trust their Chain of Command or were afraid of retaliation. The reasons are legitimate. All is takes is one person in that Chain of Command to make one victim blaming comment and it can shut the entire reporting process down. All is takes is a member to witness how military leadership has handled sexual assault cases in the past to shut the reporting process down once again. There is a reason that 87% of our members do not report the crimes perpetrated against them. They fear retaliation and loss of career because they have seen it done to others.

The Stop Act called for both civilian and military professionals to work as a team to address the sexual assault complaints in a non-biased way. The Stop Act focused on the complaint, the investigation, the prosecution, the treatment, and the impact on society as a whole. It only makes sense to work with civilian authorities given local communities are not immune to the dangerousness of violent criminals. The civilian aspect would also help prevent undue command influence because no one should be sweeping these crimes under the rug in an attempt to protect their career or that of their comrades. And if it was found that any military leader attempted to hinder investigations in any way, then they would be held accountable for that because civilians are there to safeguard the process.

The MJIA when first introduced mirrored elements of the Stop Act but after stripped in the congressional bill making process eventually focused primarily on who victims of sexual assault should report to. Removing military leaders and Commanders from the reporting, investigation and prosecution of violent crimes was the point of contention. The military feels that Commanders should retain control and ownership of those decisions and Gillibrand offered the MJIA as a compromise to our original request. But the MJIA does not go far enough. Military members do not report to Chain of Command due to fear of retaliation. So who should they report to? Gillibrand suggested reporting to military prosecutors instead.

The MJIA is addressing one element of the entire system, a system that a lot of members feel is broken and riddled with undue command influence, a system that no longer protects either the accused or victim’s constitutional rights. As evidenced in the case of General James Amos, Commandant, USMC, an officer’s proactive stance against military sexual assault can get cases thrown out in the end because of undue command influence. The argument is that military members may feel compelled to pursue prosecution and/or prosecute despite a lack of evidence because the senior leader’s stance against sexual assault can be considered a direct order.

I initially supported the MJIA because it was better then nothing. Much like the survivors, Representative Speier was shut down as well. She did not get the support needed from veteran’s organizations who work closely with Congress on behalf of military members. The one organization we initially turned to shut us down as well. We were thankful that Protect Our Defenders was created to not only support Representative Speier and the Stop Act but also support any and all legislation that would help our military members find justice for crimes perpetrated against them. Protect Our Defenders has been a supporter of the Stop Act since they were created and for that we are very appreciative.

The MJIA was a compromise. I supported it in last year’s congressional session. But now that we are in a new session, its time to renew our commitment to a piece of legislation that was not a compromise (or maybe even a distraction). Reporting a crime to a prosecutor as opposed to your military Commander is not the priority. Our members have reported not trusting the Chain of Command, not trusting the military justice system, fear of retaliation from military leaders, and quite frankly hardly anyone, especially Officers and leadership are held accountable. Therefore, I am not going to beg for the MJIA when it barely scratches at the surface. We are in a new session and it’s time to fight for what we always wanted. The Stop Act offers the solution that we have been fighting for.

In the end, we are asking for the same rights as American citizens while in garrison. We should have the right to report a violent crime to the cops like every body else does. We should be referred to a sexual assault examiner and for treatment right away. We should be given the knowledge and understanding necessary to make a decision as to whether or not we want to move forward with a case (unlike the way it currently is, as depicted in the Amy Schumer video), we should be working with civilian professionals so that we can track these violent criminals and prevent crimes from being perpetrated against both our military members and the civilians who live near our military bases. This is only how we are going to deal with sexual assaults and violent crimes in the US. We haven’t even talked about how we are going to deal with them overseas. To be continued.

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These are the numbers for 2009-10. We are now up to an estimated 26,300 sexual assaults per year yet only 3,374 reports by military members. The DoD tells us there has been a 50% increase in reporting. This may be attributed to both an increase in crimes and reporting. We are still left with a broken justice system that prosecutes far less complaints than they receive. The civilian prosecution rate for sexual assault is about 40% whereas the military prosecution rate is less then 10%.

Top Marine Gen. James Amos is accused of interfering in sex assault, desecration cases

Top Marine Gen. James Amos is accused of interfering in sex assault, desecration cases

A military judge did something extraordinary last summer when he ordered the Marine Corps‘ top officer to submit sworn statements in a sexual assault case. The answers from the commandant, Gen. James F. Amos, have some in Marine legal circles wondering whether he told the full truth.

Gen. Amos, a Joint Chiefs of Staff member, faces charges from defense attorneys that his words and actions have unleashed a wave of unlawful command influence over jurors who venerate the commandant.

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Marine’s conviction for rape of Kentucky woman overturned

Marine’s conviction for rape of Kentucky woman overturned

In its May 22 ruling, the Navy-Marine Corps Court of Criminal Appeals said Commandant Gen. James Amos’ push against sexual assault was unlawful command influence. The court set aside the 19-year sentence at Fort Leavenworth, Kan., that was handed down in October 2012 to Staff Sgt. Stephen P. Howell. He was convicted in a military court trial at Parris Island, S.C., of rape, forcible sodomy, adultery and other charges involving a Lexington, Ky., woman.

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UCMJ: 837. ART. 37. UNLAWFULLY INFLUENCING ACTION OF COURT

(a) No authority convening a general, special, or summary court-martial, nor any other commanding officer, may censure, reprimand, or admonish the court or any member, military judge, or counsel thereof, with respect to the findings or sentence adjudged by the court, or with respect to any other exercises of its or his functions in the conduct of the proceedings. No person subject to this chapter may attempt to coerce or, by any unauthorized means, influence the action of a court-martial or any other military tribunal or any member thereof, in reaching the findings or sentence in any case, or the action of any convening, approving, or reviewing authority with respect to his judicial acts. The foregoing provisions of the subsection shall not apply with respect to (1) general instructional or informational courses in military justice if such courses are designed solely for the purpose of instructing members of a command in the substantive and procedural aspects of courts-martial, or (2) to statements and instructions given in open court by the military judge, president of a special court-martial, or counsel.

(b) In the preparation of an effectiveness, fitness, or efficiency report on any other report or document used in whole or in part for the purpose of determining whether a member of the armed forces is qualified to be advanced, in grade, or in determining the assignment or transfer of a member of the armed forces or in determining whether a member of the armed forces should be retained on active duty, no person subject to this chapter may, in preparing any such report (1) consider or evaluate the performance of duty of any such member, as counsel, represented any accused before a court-martial.

Honor and Deception (USAFA, 2013)

Honor and Deception (USAFA, 2013)

A secretive Air Force program recruits academy students to inform on fellow cadets and disavows them afterward

Facing pressure to combat drug use and sexual assault at the Air Force Academy, the Air Force has created a secret system of cadet informants to hunt for misconduct among students.

Cadets who attend the publicly-funded academy near Colorado Springs must pledge never to lie. But the program pushes some to do just that: Informants are told to deceive classmates, professors and commanders while snapping photos, wearing recording devices and filing secret reports.

For one former academy student, becoming a covert government operative meant not only betraying the values he vowed to uphold, it meant being thrown out of the academy as punishment for doing the things the Air Force secretly told him to do.

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AFA’s Cooks convicted in sexual assault case, booted from military (2013)

AFA’s Cooks convicted in sexual assault case, booted from military (2013)

An Air Force Academy cadet has been convicted by a court martial panel on a sexual assault charge and kicked out of the military.

Air Force Academy cadet Jamil Cooks, who pleaded guilty last week to unlawfully entering women’s dorm rooms at the academy, was convicted by a court martial panel on a charge of abusive sexual contact, the academy announced Sunday morning.

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