Did you watch Stalked, A Virtual Nightmare, on Investigation Discovery tonight? If not, you missed out on an important lesson for those whose on-line presence is a must for the line of work they are in. Tonight’s episode featured a women striving to make it in the music industry. Stalked features different accounts of individuals who have been targeted. Dr. Michelle Ward discusses the different kinds of stalkers. This episode featured the resentful stalker. Once the resentful cyberstalker targets you, they will stop at nothing to see that you are destroyed personally and professionally. The resentful stalker picks you because they want what you have and can’t get it fairly. The resentful stalker makes it their life goal to slander, stir the pot, make things up, make others angry, and mess with your head. If you have PTSD, you are especially sensitive to these kind of attacks because this is how some of the toxic leadership treated military members who reported crimes or unethical behavior. After a few months of this, it will have an impact on you psychologically because after experiencing the abuse over and over, eventually they will succeed in breaking your will. If you are not sure who is doing what to you, it is difficult to address it and do something about it. Once you do learn who is targeting and stalking you, it is empowering and helps give you the will to fight back. This was clearly displayed in tonight’s episode of Stalked: Someone’s Watching on Investigation Discovery.
I too have been targeted by a cyberstalker and for months I could not figure out where the coordinated attacks were coming from. I did notice a pattern though. Every weekend something big would happen on-line that would in turn send my PTSD through the roof. Until six months later, I learned who was involved. I was stunned to learn that it wasn’t a complete stranger or one of the many military rapists I call out but instead it was a coordinated effort by a group of people in the “MST Facebook Community.” This was the epitome of betrayal to me. While they were laughing at my demise, I was experiencing increased anxiety, depression, nausea, confusion, and wanting to give up. It drove me mad speculating who was behind the random & coordinated attacks and the constant inquiries from clients and friends asking if I was okay triggered me because I knew that something else was written on-line. I didn’t even want to know what they said. I was so distrustful that I shut down my Jennifer Norris public Facebook page to escape the daily terror which included people pretending to be my friends (moles) or fake clients to outright slanderous, abusive attacks from those who call themselves ‘advocates’. In the background, I created a new private Facebook page and would not accept any friend requests from someone I had never met in my life. I was in protection mode so that I could maintain my strength to focus on my volunteer work with active duty and veterans. It took too much energy trying to figure out who was trustworthy, healthy, and safe. Finally, one day a friend, who knew me well and cared enough to let me know that I was indeed being targeted by a group of people, sent me a conversation she witnessed on Facebook. After reading through it, everything became so clear. I wasn’t being paranoid. People were really after me. I was so relieved to learn this information so I could find closure to this private hell. The lead character in my demise admitted to contacting people and telling them I was bullying him in an effort to discredit me. This cyberstalker was blocked on all social media sites for months in an effort to escape his ill treatment of me and others. How does one bully the supposed victim & stalk someone when they have them blocked on every social media site? He contacted combat veterans, organizations, Facebook pages, Facebook groups, media, movie directors, and Congressional members and proceeded with his smear campaign. Why? What is his motive? Feel bad for the guy in the wheelchair who shot himself and is being bullied by women veterans with severe PTSD? Does that even make sense? But it was working. No one dares stand up to the guy who claims to be the victim and has attempted ‘suicide’ in the past. I guess destroying my character to others pushed me out of what he believed was his calling. I don’t care why he did it. There is no excuse for this hateful & abusive behavior, especially towards another veteran with military sexual trauma. Much like the episode of Stalked tonight, it wasn’t until she hit a rock bottom that she finally decided that she was going to take the power back. I did just that when I decided to start calling these ‘internet trolls disguised as survivors’ out. You did succeed in beating me down for awhile but I fought back and turned to the professionals to help me deal with your emotional & verbal abuse and its impact on PTSD. Facebook can be a suicidal trigger for some with PTSD. It wasn’t until I learned exactly who was doing what that I could address it. The truth has set me free. Hopefully, we can prevent them from doing this to others as well.