Stalking is Dangerous (2017)

Vegas Bray is convicted of murder and sentenced 50 years to life in prison. A friend of Vegas’s, Kevin Oseguera says “the monster inside of her” shot Victor, not his friend. -Snapped on Oxygen

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Navy Veteran Victor Saucedo Shot and Killed in Home by Ex-Girlfriend; Navy Veteran Vegas Bray Sentenced to 50 Years to Life in Prison (2012)
Sgt. Bill Coffin Murdered Ex-Fiancee After Civilian Courts Issued Protective Order, Judge Alleges Army Routinely Ignores Court Orders (1997)
National Stalking Resource Center

What Are the Impacts of Stalking or Cyberstalking on a Veteran with PTSD: The Take Down


When I was serving in the military I learned that the art of ‘the take down’ was perfected. I witnessed it at every base I was stationed at and I was the odd man out because I confronted them about it. The first take down occurred after I reported sexual assaults to my Commander. My peers and Chain of Command engaged in a campaign of retaliation in an effort to push me out. The second take down occurred when I started holding others accountable for gender discrimination, harassment, and abuse; more retaliation because I was one of those girls who reported and thought she could do a job in maintenance, a man’s job.

The third take down occurred after I was backed into a corner by a Senior NCO with his finger in my face during an Operational Readiness Exercise. Instead of punching him in the face because he triggered my fight or flight response, I instead walked away and gave in to how the PTSD was out of my control if threatened in any way.  How could it not? After years of belittling treatment by supervisors and other leaders, of course one is going to begin believing that something is wrong with them and the confidence is going to be impacted. It greatly affects your self-esteem to give something everything you got only to have them ignore the whole person concept in an effort to get rid of you. It’s a coordinated effort by a gang of people determined to break your will.

What happens when they break your will? After they break your will, you are constantly looking for a way to escape the way they are making you feel. To some of us the only way to escape is suicide or AWOL. We cannot leave that particular organization without the permission of the Commander. If the Commander is part of the problem, you have no choice but to suck up whatever they dole out. I think feeling trapped under the leadership of those who you do not trust is contributing greatly to the PTSD, depression, anxiety, and drinking prevalent among our servicemembers.  When you start drinking to self-medicate your symptoms, it only seems to make things worse. But it is understandable why so many turn to alcohol in the military because if they want, military leadership can use getting help and taking medications against you in an effort to end your career.

The take down in the military is in and of itself a form of harassment, bullying, and stalking. Once they have you in their target, you can do no right and anything you did do right doesn’t matter one iota.  The whole person concept goes out the door.  It appears that you are safe when you are an airman (except in Basic & Technical Training) because you are in training but once you become an NCO or a leader, everything you do it magnified. No matter how hard I worked, how many people I trained, or how loyal and dedicated I was, it didn’t matter after they decided that I had to go. I was forced out of by these gangs at each squadron I was stationed at. I find it interesting that I should go through the same treatment at all three bases I was stationed at.

In the end, I had no control over the situation. I just had to suck up what they were doling out regardless of justice or rights or ethics. It didn’t matter what I thought. There were at least three other people in my Chain of Command that could easily tag team and do whatever they wanted. I had no where to turn. The first time I turned to my Commander and the squadron retaliated against me for reporting the violent crimes. The second time I called them out on discriminatory practices, and they proceeded to present me with paperwork that only strengthened my case. The final place I worked, after they found out that I was a victim of military sexual assault and had been diagnosed with PTSD, they swiftly began a campaign to end my career. Why? I was seeking treatment for military sexual trauma and was taking a small dosage of Prozac temporarily.

Since getting into advocacy, I have been targeted by cyberbullies and cyberstalkers. It began in June 2013 and is still happening to this day. It triggered my PTSD because it felt like the same kind of take down I experienced while serving at all three squadrons. It didn’t matter how good a job I did, someone decided that they didn’t like me and I then had no control over the situation. Everything was fine one day then all of a sudden because I had the nerve to hold them accountable, I had to go. It’s not supposed to work like that. How does that benefit the person or the taxpayer in any way? If you have a horrible leader in charge of 200 good soldiers and they decide they don’t want to deal with you any longer, all they have to do is initiate a campaign looking for the negative that conveniently outweighs all the years of good work. It happens all the time. We have no where to turn to hold these leaders accountable. So our lives hang in the balance while we wait for them to make their decisions.

Just like cyberstalking on the internet, there is not a whole lot you can do about it until your life has been threatened. In my case, I think the campaign was successful at pushing me to kill myself. I had thoughts of dying to escape what the cyberstalkers were saying and doing to me but God wants me here for some reason. Until he wants me to go, I am trying to honor his desires for me and my future. He knows that I have a good heart, care about others, and want those who are not kind to be held accountable for their behavior. We are not asking for much here. All of these people have demonstrated a pattern of escalation of their behavior because they have not been held accountable.

Was it in the best interest of the Air Force for me to leave my position. Oh hell no. I had 14 years when they initiated medical discharge. I was eligible for E-7 and their decision to push me out the door may have benefited my health in the end but it definitely didn’t benefit the taxpayer in the least bit. I was planning on staying for as long as they would have me. I was striving for Chief. But this is not possible as long as you have people in charge who have the power to make career ending decisions. It’s as if they are just looking for the excuse to get rid of you while you watch new younger airman walk through the door.  I tried to be absolutely perfect so they never had any dirt on me. It didn’t matter, they would just make something up. Every single person should be held accountable for their actions in the military and on-line. They must be held accountable for the reckless damage they cause to the person they intend to take down.


The Resentful Stalker featured on Stalked: Someone’s Watching

20140310-231220.jpgDid you watch Stalked, A Virtual Nightmare, on Investigation Discovery tonight? If not, you missed out on an important lesson for those whose on-line presence is a must for the line of work they are in. Tonight’s episode featured a women striving to make it in the music industry. Stalked features different accounts of individuals who have been targeted. Dr. Michelle Ward discusses the different kinds of stalkers. This episode featured the resentful stalker. Once the resentful cyberstalker targets you, they will stop at nothing to see that you are destroyed personally and professionally. The resentful stalker picks you because they want what you have and can’t get it fairly. The resentful stalker makes it their life goal to slander, stir the pot, make things up, make others angry, and mess with your head. If you have PTSD, you are especially sensitive to these kind of attacks because this is how some of the toxic leadership treated military members who reported crimes or unethical behavior. After a few months of this, it will have an impact on you psychologically because after experiencing the abuse over and over, eventually they will succeed in breaking your will. If you are not sure who is doing what to you, it is difficult to address it and do something about it. Once you do learn who is targeting and stalking you, it is empowering and helps give you the will to fight back. This was clearly displayed in tonight’s episode of Stalked: Someone’s Watching on Investigation Discovery.

Jeremiah Arbogast

Latest cyberattack occurred on March 9, 2014

I too have been targeted by a cyberstalker and for months I could not figure out where the coordinated attacks were coming from. I did notice a pattern though. Every weekend something big would happen on-line that would in turn send my PTSD through the roof. Until six months later, I learned who was involved. I was stunned to learn that it wasn’t a complete stranger or one of the many military rapists I call out but instead it was a coordinated effort by a group of people in the “MST Facebook Community.” This was the epitome of betrayal to me. While they were laughing at my demise, I was experiencing increased anxiety, depression, nausea, confusion, and wanting to give up. It drove me mad speculating who was behind the random & coordinated attacks and the constant inquiries from clients and friends asking if I was okay triggered me because I knew that something else was written on-line. I didn’t even want to know what they said. I was so distrustful that I shut down my Jennifer Norris public Facebook page to escape the daily terror which included people pretending to be my friends (moles) or fake clients to outright slanderous, abusive attacks from those who call themselves ‘advocates’. In the background, I created a new private Facebook page and would not accept any friend requests from someone I had never met in my life. I was in protection mode so that I could maintain my strength to focus on my volunteer work with active duty and veterans. It took too much energy trying to figure out who was trustworthy, healthy, and safe. Finally, one day a friend, who knew me well and cared enough to let me know that I was indeed being targeted by a group of people, sent me a conversation she witnessed on Facebook. After reading through it, everything became so clear. I wasn’t being paranoid. People were really after me. I was so relieved to learn this information so I could find closure to this private hell. The lead character in my demise admitted to contacting people and telling them I was bullying him in an effort to discredit me. This cyberstalker was blocked on all social media sites for months in an effort to escape his ill treatment of me and others. How does one bully the supposed victim & stalk someone when they have them blocked on every social media site? He contacted combat veterans, organizations, Facebook pages, Facebook groups, media, movie directors, and Congressional members and proceeded with his smear campaign. Why? What is his motive? Feel bad for the guy in the wheelchair who shot himself and is being bullied by women veterans with severe PTSD? Does that even make sense? But it was working. No one dares stand up to the guy who claims to be the victim and has attempted ‘suicide’ in the past. I guess destroying my character to others pushed me out of what he believed was his calling. I don’t care why he did it. There is no excuse for this hateful & abusive behavior, especially towards another veteran with military sexual trauma. 20140310-233640.jpg Much like the episode of Stalked tonight, it wasn’t until she hit a rock bottom that she finally decided that she was going to take the power back. I did just that when I decided to start calling these ‘internet trolls disguised as survivors’ out. You did succeed in beating me down for awhile but I fought back and turned to the professionals to help me deal with your emotional & verbal abuse and its impact on PTSD. Facebook can be a suicidal trigger for some with PTSD. It wasn’t until I learned exactly who was doing what that I could address it. The truth has set me free. Hopefully, we can prevent them from doing this to others as well.



quit stalking meQuit Stalking Me: Website Dedicated to Stopping Cyberstalking

There are millions of websites out there, and everyday more and more people are utilizing the internet for their benefit. When I became the victim of an internet crime by an anonymous cyberstalker, I was horrified. How could a technology so great (like the internet) backfire and hurt me? All my life I saw it as a positive thing: expanding my career, my expertise, knowledge, connecting people together, bringing things to my finger tips. For weeks I did not know what to do, or where to look for help. I became a paranoid, sick person who wanted the entire vast and wide internet to disappear as quickly as the click of a button.

It was difficult enough that the person did not have to be physically in my house, yet their anonymous presence was overbearing and overpowering my every single thought. But because I was knowledgeable enough in the Internet and how it worked, I was able to take my life back, slowly but surely, I told myself, I would not rest until I find this cyberstalker and confront them. Afterall, I am sure they had been dying to see me in real life.

As it turns out, the cyberstalker was someone who was actually a person who I had a casual working relationship with in the past. I actually thought this person was harmless, nice, intelligent, and did not think twice that it could be the person cyberlessly stalking me! What goes on in peoples minds, is scarey and mysterious. How could I ever trust again? But I realize that, all the signs had been there all along, perhaps it took a lot more for me to see it, and realize that. Soon all the things started coming together the more I thought about it, the person’s words, subtle actions –my subtleness in telling people where I was at, what I was doing, who I was hanging out with last weekend, who I was talking to, even what I was eating, what restaurant. It was as subtle as changing my status on Facebook, or Myspace. Although I made sure only my ‘friends’ were able to see my information and profile and private photographs, I was naive to think that anyone who requested to be my friend would actually want to ‘be my friend’ and post me nice comments on my profile page!

In an effort to help others who encounter the similar experiences with cyberstalking, or perhaps to prevent cyberstalking in the future, this website was created as an aid to guide others on dealing with cyberstalking, tracking a cyberstalker’s activity, preventing a cyberstalker from doing more harm, whether emotionally, mentally or physically; and to empower people to use technology to their advantage for the betterment of humankind.

If you need help with your a cyber stalking problem, click here to learn more. We will get you the help that you need.

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